We are in a society where money and sex play a dominant role in love relationship. Love dies without money, while marriages get shattered due to sex starvation. But then, many believe that a true love could thrive on one of these necessities, though some share contrary view as well.OLAIDE SOKOYA, in this vox pop, asks whether money or sex should determine the existence or lifespan of a love relationship.
HUMAN wants, economists say, differ and insatiable, little wonder many men/women who are in love would rather prefer money or sex as the lubricant that oils the wheels of their relationship. But then, between money and love, which is important?
Can’t a relationship flourish with or without either of the two? Of what use is love relationship that is sapped of money, or deprived sexual intimacy that some often describe as the fulcrum of love?
As complex as humans are, so also are their wants which are sometimes determined by many social, economic and biological factors. So, when a woman says, “money for hand, back for ground”, her thought process only skirts around pecuniary advantage, sexual intimacy may be secondary.
Hearing a man talk about sex or money as a factor goading him on in his relationship with a “sugar mummy” is also a proof of his preference, after all, rich older women have the capacity to provide the two in equal measure.
For emphasis once more, what attracts you to a woman/man, money or sex?
Love turns wan without sex or money
Money and sex make a happy relationship and keep a couple united. They are essential factors of a happy marriage; after all, what is love without money or sex?
It needs be stressed that the absence of money and unsatisfactory sexual intercourse between spouses has always broken homes and relationships. It is also no news learning that either the husband or wife has dragged each other to court seeking for divorce because of this issue.
Of a truth, by their nature or pleasure you shall know them. Some women are driven easily into a love relationship when they sight money. Such women are not sex freak at all. Some, however, hate the thought, but believe that no sincere love could be built on the altar of pecuniary gains.
To them, making money the basis of love is insensible, but believe that sincerity endures relationship. True love is sincere, and it can only be oiled by things that last. To this category of women, money is fleeting, but sex endures. When money stops coming, what becomes of that relationship, they always ask.
Some men are fortunate to have a wife who craves for the two, just as some have become a torn in the flesh of their husbands on learning that one of these necessities is missing.
Reaction of people on the issue
Sunday Tribune got a mix reaction from both men and women on the importance money or sex in a relationship.
Ajoke Olajide, Trader, Osogbo.
You’re right. I didn’t want to comment, but not all women want money from their men, because some women are more industrious than men. There is a tendency that the wife could be richer than the husband. So, as for me I would prefer sexual satisfaction.
Olamide Ilori, Nurse, Ado Ekiti.
As for me, I would rather choose sex. A man can have all the money in this world, but he cannot keep a relationship without satisfying his wife sexually. There are some women who will even prefer to use your (husband) money to derive sexual satisfaction elsewhere in case he is not capable. Imagine the pain a man will encounter if his wife involves herself in extra-marital affairs just for mere sexual satisfaction. Many couples have split because their sexual needs were not met.
Oladele Olalekan, University Graduate, Ilorin
I don’t see money as a threat. The fact that I don’t have money for a while does not make me a poor man. Of course, in due time, the money would surely come. God has a way of blessing you with money, even when you are not expecting it. So, people should stop making money a major priority in a relationship. Once you allow money to become the major headache in your relationship, you would not be able to enjoy sex the way it should be. And it would surprise you to know that even when the money comes, you would still not enjoy sex because you didn’t pay due attention to it.
Adekemi Christaina, Nurse, Lagos.
My take is that any relationship without a healthy sexual satisfaction would hardly die. I mean there should be this feeling and urge in you anytime when you are with your spouse. What do you think most married men and women are looking for outside their marital homes? They are all seeking for sexual satisfaction. Most of them are sexually starved. If not, they would stick to their legal partners; after all, they are also aware of dangers involved in the game. But they prefer to take that risk because they want to enjoy themselves. Sex is the main issue in a true relationship, while money can always come later.
Asiwaju Oluwaseyi, Civil Servant, Ibadan.
I think it is money that can keep a relationship going. When there is money in a man’s pocket, he has confidence to stay around any class of woman he wishes. Some people would say money is not everything which I also agree with, but it would be a shameful thing for a lady to visit his fiancé and he cannot even pay for her transport fare. Money is the backbone of any relationship.
Okunade Damilola, Civil Servant, Ado Ekiti
How do you intend to keep any relationship without money? It is true that real love exists, but without money, that love may be heading for a crash because time would come when both of them would need money to do so many things. Both the man and woman need money to be happy in their relationship, especially in this period of economic crisis when things are just too expensive.
Olasunbo Gloria, Student, UNAD
Relationship is all about friendship. Both sex and money are tied to friendship. So, I believe they both go together. For a marriage relationship, sex and money are key ingredients that keep it going. They just can’t do without each other. They have to be there if the marriage must be successful. I don’t think that any of them should be absent when it comes to marriage or love relationship. So, gather enough money and at the same time have fun.
Adaran Modupe, Businesswoman, Akure.
Sex would survive a relationship much more than money can. I agree that money can help people in a relationship get so many material things, but sex has a way of reaching out to the heart, much more than money can. You can have all the money and the woman would still not love you if you can’t meet her sexual obligations.
Olayiwola Segun, Computer Operator, Ibadan.
It all depends, because if you meet a man who doesn’t have any money, yet both of you are working towards a goal, then as a woman, you would have the mindset that he is going to have money some day. Money should not be the primal thing; it is sex that determines how far a relationship goes. Money cannot father a child; you can only have procreation when there is a sexual intercourse. We should ask ourselves then, of what use is the money you have in your bank account that cannot give you your own child. This is to tell us that sex plays a greater role in marriage than any other thing.
Olomoshua, Tolulope, Caterer, Ibadan
In my opinion, we can’t do without any of this in a relationship. Both money and sex are important in helping to make a relationship work. Sex is a way of how both persons communicate their feelings for each other without actual words. It’s also a form of how you show love. Love, once true, will always stand the test of time. Money is practical as it’s how we are able to accumulate things together. So all are required. Can’t do without one.
Salami Titilayo, Teacher, Ibadan
I think both is needed because a relationship can fall apart if one of those is not functioning. One: if there is no sex it makes no sense and two: if there is no money then you won’t have any nature for the person because that is the fuel for the relationship. It is the truth!
Can’t a relationship flourish with or without either of the two? Of what use is love relationship that is sapped of money, or deprived sexual intimacy that some often describe as the fulcrum of love?
As complex as humans are, so also are their wants which are sometimes determined by many social, economic and biological factors. So, when a woman says, “money for hand, back for ground”, her thought process only skirts around pecuniary advantage, sexual intimacy may be secondary.
Hearing a man talk about sex or money as a factor goading him on in his relationship with a “sugar mummy” is also a proof of his preference, after all, rich older women have the capacity to provide the two in equal measure.
For emphasis once more, what attracts you to a woman/man, money or sex?
Love turns wan without sex or money
Money and sex make a happy relationship and keep a couple united. They are essential factors of a happy marriage; after all, what is love without money or sex?
It needs be stressed that the absence of money and unsatisfactory sexual intercourse between spouses has always broken homes and relationships. It is also no news learning that either the husband or wife has dragged each other to court seeking for divorce because of this issue.
Of a truth, by their nature or pleasure you shall know them. Some women are driven easily into a love relationship when they sight money. Such women are not sex freak at all. Some, however, hate the thought, but believe that no sincere love could be built on the altar of pecuniary gains.
To them, making money the basis of love is insensible, but believe that sincerity endures relationship. True love is sincere, and it can only be oiled by things that last. To this category of women, money is fleeting, but sex endures. When money stops coming, what becomes of that relationship, they always ask.
Some men are fortunate to have a wife who craves for the two, just as some have become a torn in the flesh of their husbands on learning that one of these necessities is missing.
Reaction of people on the issue
Sunday Tribune got a mix reaction from both men and women on the importance money or sex in a relationship.
Ajoke Olajide, Trader, Osogbo.You’re right. I didn’t want to comment, but not all women want money from their men, because some women are more industrious than men. There is a tendency that the wife could be richer than the husband. So, as for me I would prefer sexual satisfaction.
Olamide Ilori, Nurse, Ado Ekiti.
As for me, I would rather choose sex. A man can have all the money in this world, but he cannot keep a relationship without satisfying his wife sexually. There are some women who will even prefer to use your (husband) money to derive sexual satisfaction elsewhere in case he is not capable. Imagine the pain a man will encounter if his wife involves herself in extra-marital affairs just for mere sexual satisfaction. Many couples have split because their sexual needs were not met.
Oladele Olalekan, University Graduate, Ilorin
I don’t see money as a threat. The fact that I don’t have money for a while does not make me a poor man. Of course, in due time, the money would surely come. God has a way of blessing you with money, even when you are not expecting it. So, people should stop making money a major priority in a relationship. Once you allow money to become the major headache in your relationship, you would not be able to enjoy sex the way it should be. And it would surprise you to know that even when the money comes, you would still not enjoy sex because you didn’t pay due attention to it.
Adekemi Christaina, Nurse, Lagos.
My take is that any relationship without a healthy sexual satisfaction would hardly die. I mean there should be this feeling and urge in you anytime when you are with your spouse. What do you think most married men and women are looking for outside their marital homes? They are all seeking for sexual satisfaction. Most of them are sexually starved. If not, they would stick to their legal partners; after all, they are also aware of dangers involved in the game. But they prefer to take that risk because they want to enjoy themselves. Sex is the main issue in a true relationship, while money can always come later.
Asiwaju Oluwaseyi, Civil Servant, Ibadan.
I think it is money that can keep a relationship going. When there is money in a man’s pocket, he has confidence to stay around any class of woman he wishes. Some people would say money is not everything which I also agree with, but it would be a shameful thing for a lady to visit his fiancé and he cannot even pay for her transport fare. Money is the backbone of any relationship.
Okunade Damilola, Civil Servant, Ado Ekiti
How do you intend to keep any relationship without money? It is true that real love exists, but without money, that love may be heading for a crash because time would come when both of them would need money to do so many things. Both the man and woman need money to be happy in their relationship, especially in this period of economic crisis when things are just too expensive.
Olasunbo Gloria, Student, UNAD
Relationship is all about friendship. Both sex and money are tied to friendship. So, I believe they both go together. For a marriage relationship, sex and money are key ingredients that keep it going. They just can’t do without each other. They have to be there if the marriage must be successful. I don’t think that any of them should be absent when it comes to marriage or love relationship. So, gather enough money and at the same time have fun.
Adaran Modupe, Businesswoman, Akure.
Sex would survive a relationship much more than money can. I agree that money can help people in a relationship get so many material things, but sex has a way of reaching out to the heart, much more than money can. You can have all the money and the woman would still not love you if you can’t meet her sexual obligations.
Olayiwola Segun, Computer Operator, Ibadan.
It all depends, because if you meet a man who doesn’t have any money, yet both of you are working towards a goal, then as a woman, you would have the mindset that he is going to have money some day. Money should not be the primal thing; it is sex that determines how far a relationship goes. Money cannot father a child; you can only have procreation when there is a sexual intercourse. We should ask ourselves then, of what use is the money you have in your bank account that cannot give you your own child. This is to tell us that sex plays a greater role in marriage than any other thing.
Olomoshua, Tolulope, Caterer, Ibadan
In my opinion, we can’t do without any of this in a relationship. Both money and sex are important in helping to make a relationship work. Sex is a way of how both persons communicate their feelings for each other without actual words. It’s also a form of how you show love. Love, once true, will always stand the test of time. Money is practical as it’s how we are able to accumulate things together. So all are required. Can’t do without one.
Salami Titilayo, Teacher, Ibadan
I think both is needed because a relationship can fall apart if one of those is not functioning. One: if there is no sex it makes no sense and two: if there is no money then you won’t have any nature for the person because that is the fuel for the relationship. It is the truth!
No comments:
Post a Comment