Staying sexually in love

One major factor that will keep a couple together is to stay sexually in love. When a couple is able to achieve this feat of staying sexually in love, they will be able to overcome any challenge in their relationship.

As clearly stated by Dr. Naura Hayden in her book, The Sexually Delicious Marriage “They will overcome all problems - money troubles, business failures or other separations, problem kids, sicknesses- there is nothing that can hurt their marriage as long as they stay sexually in love.”

Marriage with exciting sex is what I refer to as staying sexually in love. This is because marriage enables a couple to break the bound of other relationships outside marriage. In other relationships outside marriage, you can hold hands, hug or kiss, but you cannot get any closer mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically in your sexual relationship as you would in marriage. Marriage offers no bound to the partners. That is why people in other relationships always seek to consummate marriage at the end of the day. They seem never to be satisfied until it gets to the marriage level, or like commonly stated, next level.

This is why Dr. Hayden said “marriage without exciting sex is between two roommates. Marriage with exciting sex is a husband and wife who will do anything to keep their marriage sexually exciting and faithful.” When a couple stays sexually in love, they will be able to work as a team to figure out how to solve the money problem so that they live happily hereafter forever.

Staying sexually in love gives you a feeling that Dr. Hayden described as entering “heaven-on-earth.” When this happens, your body is trembling inside with excitement of the anticipation of your partner making you explode with passion. At this point, you experience “the emotionally peaceful place of being with the man or woman you truly love; the mental peaceful place of knowing that nothing on earth is as important as being with the mate you truly love; the physical peaceful place of having your body totally relaxed and filled with the joy of true love; the spiritual peaceful place of knowing that God guided you to your mate for you to know love and goodness and peace that will be with you forever.”

Staying sexually in love means you are willing to do everything in your power to make your partner happy sexually and vice versa. This means the couple wants to make love readily, turn each other on, hold hands, caress each other, and give each other passionate kisses on the lips.

The problem with a lot of marriages is that most couples don’t understand how important exciting sex is to marriage, while those who do don’t know how to keep sex exciting. Sexually staying in love makes two partners to be caring of each other; caring indeed is the bottom line meaning of love. If you are in love, you will be caring of your object of love. It’s just like if you love your pets, dog, plants, kids, you care for them. Likewise, if you love your spouse, you will care for him/her in the best way possible. And one way to do this is by having delicious, exciting sex in your marriage.
Staying sexually in love means that you are ready to give up anything to be with each other, to stay together forever. This is the height of marital fulfillment. When a couple is not staying sexually in love, marriage becomes boring for either party or both of them.

Effects of staying sexually in love
When a couple is sexually in love, they have discovered that it is not enough for the wife to just lie down there for the husband, and have him “put it in” and pump away till he reaches orgasm and becomes flatten out; or for the husband to insert his penis into his wife’s vagina and think it must feel as good for her as it does for him.

Rather, the husband has already learnt the art of “ultimate foreplay’ to make his wife feel so hot that she does not have to fake orgasm, but her body aches for her husband to make her hot and give her the same ecstasy every time they make love. Also, the wife has mastered what to tell the husband to do to turn her on for great sex.

When staying sexually in love, a husband has learnt how to drive his wife wild with desire for orgasm, and then be able to give her orgasm through intercourse. This involves the husband doing things with her body that will drive her to the peak of emotional arousal for sexual pleasure. She is able to get to the edge of the cliff and go over the edge into an orgasm of incredible pleasure.

Sexually staying in love means the husband has learnt to verbalise his love. Men don’t do it always, taking it for granted that because they meet the financial needs, their wives should know that they love them. But, it is a fact that a woman wants to hear from her husband always that he loves her, and that she is so exciting to behold. It gives her a special feeling of being special and that there is a “big deal about me.”